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The Quiet Violence of Personal Expectations

Choosing Grace Over Self-Punishment

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Dec 17, 2025
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There is a particular kind of disappointment I’ve come to know.
It doesn’t come from things going wrong. It’s grief for a version of time that didn’t arrive.

In the weeks leading up to my wedding, I carried a vision of how I wanted to move through time.

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