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the subtle erosion of identity
how we give our agency away, and how to take it back
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August 2026
How to Write a Personal Essay Without Overexposing Your World
The uncomfortable tightrope every personal essayist eventually has to walk, and the guideposts I use to manage the process
Aug 27
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The $850 Pillow (and the Systems That Actually Let Me Sleep)
The privacy and protection systems I put in place when I became a widow. And they feel damn good to have.
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Empty Nest: Your Most Informed Reinvention Yet
everyone calls it the beginning of the end. it’s just the beginning.
Aug 13
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Why You Never Have Anything to Wear (It's Not Your Closet)
The lesson I passed to my daughter that stops the wardrobe panic
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July 2026
You Can't Relax Your Way to Calm
What a Mayan sweat lodge taught me about the one thing holding me back
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Belonging Was Never a Place
What the mountain gorillas of Rwanda taught me
Jul 23
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What a 5-Star Luxury Safari Taught Me
It had nothing to do with luxury. The opposite, actually.
Jul 16
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The Other Side of Safari
The Real Cost Behind the Instagram Reel
Jul 5
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June 2026
You Can Travel the World, but You Can't Escape Yourself
The day I got escorted out of Ireland's oldest library
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We Went to a Bridgerton Wedding
And visited Ireland too
Jun 16
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Learning to Roll Like a Ball, Not a Square
26 bags of vitamins and no hairbrush. The unravel of travel.
Jun 14
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